Is change masculine?
I asked myself this question just a few days ago. I had separate conversations with a woman and a man about the topic of changing jobs. Both expressed the desire to reorient themselves professionally due to dissatisfaction with their current positions. While the male participant had fewer reservations about applying for available positions, the female participant hesitated because of the job requirements. Both have the same professional background and qualifications. While the male participant, let’s call him Mark, assured me that job requirements are not a barrier, even if he doesn't meet them 100%, the female participant, Rachel, admitted that she was very worried her application would have little chance of success.
So, do men find it easier to implement a change like a job switch than women? According to a Forsa survey from 2023, one-third of the men surveyed would agree to a job change if offered an attractive position, compared to only a quarter of the women surveyed. One reason for this is the proven fact that women tend to engage more thoroughly with job profiles than men, and men often feel capable of taking on tasks for which they are (not yet) qualified.
So, is it a lack of self-confidence? In many cases, women are not fully aware of their abilities or their capacity to learn new things. I have encountered this often in my coaching sessions. However, I don’t think change is inherently masculine. But in my experience, women often need more security before embracing change.
How can coaching help? There is a simple yet highly effective method: the Walt Disney Method. Don’t worry, this isn’t about rescuing princesses or talking cats. The Walt Disney Method connects your inner dreamer with the realist and the critic, giving each a voice.
Example: I want to start my own business.
What does the dreamer say? I own a small bookstore in our neighboring village. I sell stories for all stages of life, and that makes me happy.
In this phase, EVERYTHING is possible. There are no obstacles. I fully give myself to my dreams and fantasies.
What does the realist say? I’ll look for a suitable location in the neighboring village. The rent should not exceed 1,000 euros. I will purchase the books from XYZ wholesaler. I will create a business plan that will generate profit by XX.XX.XXXX.
In this phase, the dream is reviewed realistically but not pessimistically. Planning can begin.
What does the critic say? I’m not sure if this is a good idea. Who even reads books anymore? I would have to work constantly, and in the end, it might not even be worth it. Or will it?
In this phase, the critic questions the plan, raises doubts, and examines potential obstacles. Now is the best time to find out if you’ve considered everything and what still needs to be clarified.
The process of expressing a wish, moving into action, and then voicing concerns can be repeated as often as needed. The key is that each role gets heard, and the roles do not overlap. In each round, clarify the wish, the planning, and re-examine them with the critic until all three roles are satisfied.
The Walt Disney Method can provide the confidence and security to tackle both big and small changes sustainably and effectively, regardless of whether you’re male or female.
